The definition of "fetish" has been debated since the 1800s. Initially, fetishes were described as sexual fascinations with inanimate objects, like pantyhose or shoes. The definition has commonly grown to include fetishes related to body parts (like the foot and leg) or certain types of behavior (such as dominance and submission). Though fetishes can seem unusual or intimidating, nearly all of them can be satisfied in a healthy and safe manner.
Introduce Your Partner to a Fetish
Step 1: Examine why your kink excites you. For instance, many sexual fetishes involve the exchange of power. Decide whether you enjoy playing an empowering sexual role or are aroused by surrendering power.
Step 2: Assure your partner that fetishes can be healthy, fun ways to explore each other's sexuality. Granted, some fetishes can seem a little unusual at first, but the clearer you're able to articulate why the fetish turns you on, the more she is likely to indulge you.
Step 3: Take it slow. Depending on how unusual your fetish is, you'll need to take your time and allow your partner to get more comfortable with his role.
Find Others Who Share Your Fetish
Step 1: Visit a fetish club. In large cities, it's common to find entire nightclubs dedicated to fetishes. Clubbing can be a fun, social way to meet other people who share your unique desires.
Step 2: Socialize with others who would likely be open to exploring your fetish. Certain people are more curious and sexually adventurous. You'd be more likely to find a potential bondage partner at a Goth club than at a church singles group.
Step 3: Use online dating sites that cater to the fetish community. While the larger dating sites might narrow your matches by age and race, specialty sites can allow you to search for others who share your kink.
Satisfy Your Fetish Alone
Step 1: Visit an adult bookstore. From DVDs and videos to inflatable sex toys, an adult bookstore typically carries way more than just books.
Step 2: Join websites dedicated to your fetish. No matter how obscure you think your fetish is, chances are there's a website for it. As the Internet is discreet and anonymous, Internet porn can be a good way to satisfy your fetish without having to go public with it.
Step 3: Purchase accessories to help you explore your fetish. The Internet makes it possible to buy all kinds of costumes, aids and toys to help you get the most out of your fetish. From whips and chains to medical equipment, it's possible to find the tools to satisfy your kink without ever leaving the house.
Tips & Warnings
Though you might be tempted to lower your sexual inhibitions by consuming alcohol, this isn't generally a good idea when exploring a fetish. Some fetishes involve role playing, and it's possible to lose yourself in the fantasy and endanger your partner
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